Assalamualaikum... answer my salam first.. 'WAJIB' jawab salam ^_^
Its been a long2 time since I never updated my lovely blog ..hehe.. then suddenly I came out with speaking2 segala ..hahaha... okay straight to the point ^_^ . . .
Today I want to share something that I already read.. I hope this will give us a few and new knowledge..
I just copy and paste this entry.. and forget where I found it.. :)
Let us read what should we do <3 Especially, men :)
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| Pesan ustaz untuk saya..ehh,, kita,, yg single =) |
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| Jom jadi suami yang baik..hehe |
Those who are married make your husband read these and follow ^_^
For those who are not married yet make him read these in future. When a husband is happy at home then one person is happy BUT when a wife is happy at home then the whole house is happy!!!
1. Make her feel secure! Give her 'sakina' a.k.a peace (tranquility in the marriage).
2. Greet her with Salaam when you come home! By doing this it will kick
out shaitan from your home and it will give a great positive energy at
home and within your marriage.
3. Your wife is a fragile vessel so take care of her in a gentle manner.
4. Advise your wife in privacy NOT in a public place as it will be a type of slander.
5. Be generous with her! YOUR GENEROSITY TO HER IS A DIRECT BUSINESS TO ALLAH TAALA AND A DIRECT BUSINESS TO HER HEART.
6. Do small gestures for her E.G "your sitting down on the sofa and she walks in to the room! you move aside and say honey sit here i have warmed the seat for you" THESES PARTICULAR POINTS BROTHER AND SISTER MAY SOUND SIMPLE BUT THEY CAN GO ALONG WAY TO ACHIEVE SAKINA IN UR MARRIAGE.
7. Avoid anger! if you're standing and you're angry then sit down but if you're sitting down and angry then lie down.
8. Looking good, smelling great!
9. Don't be rigid because you will be broken! Being rigid towards your wife will not bring you closer to Allah Taala!
10. Listen to your wife! take an interest in what she is saying what she desires, give her your time.
11. Give your wife compliments... flatter her DON'T argue... argument causes problems BUT flattery will warm your wife's heart for you.
12. Call your wife with the best names she likes to hear!!! Our beloved Prophet pbuh use to do this with his wives.
13. Sometimes give her a pleasant surprise!!! that pleasant surprise will warm her heart towards you! E.G she loves water melons and suddenly you get one home when it isn't even the season for watermelons.
14. Preserving the tongue!!! THIS IS SERIOUS!
15. All of us have short comings so does she. To look at her short comings and to think that we are perfect IS A SERIOUS PROBLEM! so EXPECT her short comings and ACCEPT her short coming and Allah Taala will put BARAKAH in your life and you will have and keep her love.
16. You will find some brothers love there wives, appreciate them, respect them BUT they never EXPRESS IT TO THEM! they just keep it in there heart!!!!! What you need to do is take it from the tongue of your heart and put it on the tongue of your mouth and DELIVER IT TO HER..... SHOW HER, TELL HER...by doing this it will increase her love for you.
17. Encourage her to be and keep in touch with her in relations and to be kind to her mum and dad! that will brings her life blessing and mercy from Allah Taala and in return that blessing and mercy is your love.
18. Speak on the topics of her interest! this will keep the love increase the love and preserve the love.
19. This is 1 of the most SERIOUS MATTERS!!! When in front of her parents and relatives, show and express that she is wonderful, and you admit and you realize and confirm that she is wonderful! Speak out that she is a good person!!! that can preserve the love.
20. Our beloved Prophet pbuh gave us MAJOR TIPS..one was GIVE EACH OTHER GIFTS AND YOU WILL LUV EACH OTHER... it can be for 5 pounds or 500 pounds its the thought NOT THE QUANTITY of money spent... that gift can go along way!!! this was confirmed by our Prophet pbuh that when you give her a gift she will love you more it will polish the love for you. BROTHERS AND SISTERS Don't wait for an occasion to buy gifts for one another BECAUSE everyday is an occasion together! E.G brother you can buy her a gift because she washes your clothes for you day in day out! Sisters you can buy him a gift because he looks after you and cares for you.....
21. GETTING RID OF THE RUST (routine) Surprise her, make a change here and there.. this will warm her heart towards you...E.G take her out for a meal or weekend break! surprise her.
22. Islamic we are requested and demanded by Allah Taala (THAT WE HAVE TO THINK GOOD) meaning we have to think GOOD OF ONE ANOTHER!!! THIS APPLIES TO SISTERS AS WELL.
23. Have the manners to PRETEND you did not hear a certain word or comment from your wife OR you did not see a certain thing she did! HOWEVER THAT DOESN'T MEAN IF SHE HAS DONE OR SAID SOMETHING THAT WILL DAMAGE HERSELF OR DEEN THEN YOU HAVE TO ACKNOWLEDGE IT! but the silly word, comments and action that she does pretend you did not hear or see because it will cause arguments for no reason... THIS WAS A PRACTICE THAT HAZRAT ALI USE TO IMPLEMENT..
24. This is a point that we all need to implement.. which is ADD A DROP OF PATIENCE DAILY IN YOUR EVERYDAY LIFE! THIS APPLIES TO SISTERS AS WELL... Brothers also INCREASE that drop pf patience when she is pregnant or on her monthly period this will go along way to her heart.
25. EXPECT her jealousy and RESPECT her jealousy! ITS NATURAL! sometimes our mothers may Allah be pleased with them use to get jealous when our beloved Prophet pbuh use to get food from the believers (the sisters) the servant came down with the food to our Prophet pbuh and our mother Aisha may Allah Taala be pleased with her stood next to our Prophets pbuh and she tapped the hand of the servant and the food fell on the floor.... BUT our beloved Prophet pbuh went down picking up the food and started to give out the food to everyone and said " EAT EVERYONE YOUR MOTHER GETS JEALOUS" and that's it it was over!!! so expect and respect her jealousy as it PROTECTS your love.
26. Be humble and you will be raised in her heart .
27. DON'T MAKE YOUR FRIENDS HAPPY AT THE EXPENSE OF YOUR WIFE'S HAPPINESS... E.G don't bring your friends home late at night and wake your wife up so she can prepare food and feed them. This will cause strain in her heart.
28. Help at home.. with the food and household chores... our beloved Prophet pbuh did this.. and he is the best amongst us.
29. Don't force your wife to love your parents because love cant be forced and Allah Taala puts love in the heart! Help her to respect and be kind to your parents and Insya-Allah the love will come gradually.
30. Show her that she is the ideal wife! This is not a lie because in many ways she is ideal BECAUSE every wife is ideal NO MATTER how good or great she is or how half great she is and make her feel how ideal she is that will increase her love.
31. BROTHERS remember your wife in your DUA'S. this will increase and protect her love especially if she knows you spend great time making dua for her in great places.
32. LEAVE HER PAST ALONE... YOU ARE NOT PART OR IN CHARGE OF HER PAST... YOU ARE NOT HER JUDGE!!! THIS IS STRICTLY BETWEEN ALLAH TAALA AND HER.
33. Don't try to show her your doing her a favor by bringing food for her at home...by saying you are providing for her BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT!!!!!! you are just a deliverer BECAUSE ALLAH TAALA PROVIDES FOR US!!!
34. Satan is your enemy NOT your wife... TAKE THE SHAITAN AS A ENEMY...do not let him get in between you both because his ultimate goal is to split you up as Allah Taala hates divorce
35. take food and put it in too her mouth... feed her because that will bring you closer
36. Consider your wife as your precious pearls... keep her away from the envy of the humans and jinns... Protect her from their gaze and their touch! SHE IS THE QUEEN OF YOUR HEART.
37. Show her your smile everyday... BECAUSE THE SMILE WILL WARM HER HEART... and its like giving sadaqah (charity).
38. DO not ignore your small problems because it will become a HUGE problem and can split you.
39. Avoid being harsh hearted....be gentle to your wife.
40. Respect her thinking... show that you appreciate and respect her thoughts.
41. Help her to dig within her heart... help her to find success BECAUSE HER SUCCESS IS YOUR SUCCESS.
42. Respecting the intimacy and the boundaries between you and your wife! Stay in the halal boundaries. When she is unwell to do not impose on her. respect her if she is not in the mood for your desires.
43. Our children are our HEARTS walking on this earth!!! HELP HER TO LOOK AFTER YOUR THEM (OUR HEART).
44. Give her the gifts of the tongue! tel her you look great mashaallah you are bright! give her the gifts of the tongue.
45. Don't be a stranger to your wife! she is your soul mate, best friend, the mother of your children! give her time and that will increase, protect and preserve your love.
46. Let her know when you're traveling, let her know when you are returning home! It's AGAINST ISLAM THAT YOU JUST SURPRISE HER AND KNOCK ON THE DOOR.
47. Some of us will start carrying a particular debate with us and in time it will turn into arguments.. DON'T LEAVE HOME BECAUSE OF IT... if you need to be alone go for a few min or an hour to yourself but don't let it manifest and let it keep you away from home! QUIT this habit because the sooner you stop doing that it will increase your love.
48. The home has secrecy and privacy, Once you take this privacy to the public, the secrecy of your wife, YOU ARE REALLY SERIOUSLY PUTTING A DANGEROUS HOLE INTO YOUR MARRIAGE AND RELATION... ISLAM IS AGAINST TAKING YOUR SECRECY AND PRIVACY TO THE PUBLIC.
49. ENCOURAGE EACH OTHER WITH IBADAH IN WORSHIPING ALLAH TAALA!!! this will bring mercy, blessing and love into your marriage! when you plan to do hajj together this will increase your love so much.
50. LET HER KNOW THAT HER RIGHTS OVER YOU ARE NOT ONLY ON PAPER BUT WRITTEN IN YOUR HEART AND SOUL.
51/ 52. The Prophet pbuh said there is a messenger. the message at the tongue of the intimate relationship which is a kiss and we have to understand that a man cant just jump on his wife like a bull, NO!!! THE MESSENGER IS THE KISS.. it keeps the love and it polishes the love
53. Some of us when we have a problem, we have small problems with our loved one, then we go and share it with everyone! its like when you are wounded you don't leave your wound for all the germs because that will be dangerous for your wound! so when you have a dispute with your wife, it should not be known to anyone because that will dirty your wound and it will be dangerous! SO its best to go to someone that has a strong knowledge on Islam that can guide you to resolve the dispute.
54. To know that the good health of your wife is your good health! to care for her health is like to care for your own health because when she is unwell you are unwell! YOU ARE BOTH ONE.
55. Some brothers will think they are right all the time and they can never accept that they are wrong. BUT THEY HAVE TO REMEMBER THEY ARE NOT PERFECT THEY HAVE SHORT COMINGS! YOU NEED TO GET RID OF THIS SICKNESS ( THAT YOUR ALWAYS RIGHT) THOSE PEOPLE WHO THINK THEY ARE ALWAYS RIGHT, well may ALLAH TAALA HELP YOU!!!!! THE ONE THAT IS ALWAYS RIGHT IS OUR PROPHET MOHAMMAD PBUH!!! get rid of this sickness then your love will be protected and increased.
56. Share your happiness and sadness with your wife.
57. Have mercy on her weakness!!! have mercy on her when she is weak or when she is strong! have mercy on her as she is the fragile vessel, she is the one that really takes care of you and your loved ones and she is the one that is entrusted in your hands! our prophet pbuh showed us that this wife is a trust in your hand.
58. You are the comfortable chest for her, you are the one who should say to her: lean on me at difficult times, lean on me in the sad and happy times! rest assured she will lean on your chest but she will look after your heart and protect the love.
59. Accept her as is!!! she is created out of your rib!!! so naturally she will be bent!!! you will never be able to straighten her, if you try to she will break! Allah Taala showed us if you dislike one manner of her you will like another manner of her.
60. Have the good intentions for your wife at all times it will go along way because Allah Taala will monitor your heart!
Alhamdulillah..
Done !!
OhMyEnglish is tunggang terbalik !!! But it is okay.. the important thing is the message that we already read, right !? ^_^
hope we can be the best for our partner :) .. orang puteh cakap saling melengkapi ^_^
Thank you for reading ^_^...
See you in my next entry.. Take care !!
WASSALAM ~~~
3. Your wife is a fragile vessel so take care of her in a gentle manner.
4. Advise your wife in privacy NOT in a public place as it will be a type of slander.
5. Be generous with her! YOUR GENEROSITY TO HER IS A DIRECT BUSINESS TO ALLAH TAALA AND A DIRECT BUSINESS TO HER HEART.
6. Do small gestures for her E.G "your sitting down on the sofa and she walks in to the room! you move aside and say honey sit here i have warmed the seat for you" THESES PARTICULAR POINTS BROTHER AND SISTER MAY SOUND SIMPLE BUT THEY CAN GO ALONG WAY TO ACHIEVE SAKINA IN UR MARRIAGE.
7. Avoid anger! if you're standing and you're angry then sit down but if you're sitting down and angry then lie down.
8. Looking good, smelling great!
9. Don't be rigid because you will be broken! Being rigid towards your wife will not bring you closer to Allah Taala!
10. Listen to your wife! take an interest in what she is saying what she desires, give her your time.
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| Bukan berleter...Aigoo2..fahami wanita ye ^_^ |
11. Give your wife compliments... flatter her DON'T argue... argument causes problems BUT flattery will warm your wife's heart for you.
12. Call your wife with the best names she likes to hear!!! Our beloved Prophet pbuh use to do this with his wives.
13. Sometimes give her a pleasant surprise!!! that pleasant surprise will warm her heart towards you! E.G she loves water melons and suddenly you get one home when it isn't even the season for watermelons.
14. Preserving the tongue!!! THIS IS SERIOUS!
15. All of us have short comings so does she. To look at her short comings and to think that we are perfect IS A SERIOUS PROBLEM! so EXPECT her short comings and ACCEPT her short coming and Allah Taala will put BARAKAH in your life and you will have and keep her love.
16. You will find some brothers love there wives, appreciate them, respect them BUT they never EXPRESS IT TO THEM! they just keep it in there heart!!!!! What you need to do is take it from the tongue of your heart and put it on the tongue of your mouth and DELIVER IT TO HER..... SHOW HER, TELL HER...by doing this it will increase her love for you.
17. Encourage her to be and keep in touch with her in relations and to be kind to her mum and dad! that will brings her life blessing and mercy from Allah Taala and in return that blessing and mercy is your love.
18. Speak on the topics of her interest! this will keep the love increase the love and preserve the love.
19. This is 1 of the most SERIOUS MATTERS!!! When in front of her parents and relatives, show and express that she is wonderful, and you admit and you realize and confirm that she is wonderful! Speak out that she is a good person!!! that can preserve the love.
20. Our beloved Prophet pbuh gave us MAJOR TIPS..one was GIVE EACH OTHER GIFTS AND YOU WILL LUV EACH OTHER... it can be for 5 pounds or 500 pounds its the thought NOT THE QUANTITY of money spent... that gift can go along way!!! this was confirmed by our Prophet pbuh that when you give her a gift she will love you more it will polish the love for you. BROTHERS AND SISTERS Don't wait for an occasion to buy gifts for one another BECAUSE everyday is an occasion together! E.G brother you can buy her a gift because she washes your clothes for you day in day out! Sisters you can buy him a gift because he looks after you and cares for you.....
21. GETTING RID OF THE RUST (routine) Surprise her, make a change here and there.. this will warm her heart towards you...E.G take her out for a meal or weekend break! surprise her.
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| tu dia..memang terkejut la isteri tu...hehe ^_^ |
22. Islamic we are requested and demanded by Allah Taala (THAT WE HAVE TO THINK GOOD) meaning we have to think GOOD OF ONE ANOTHER!!! THIS APPLIES TO SISTERS AS WELL.
23. Have the manners to PRETEND you did not hear a certain word or comment from your wife OR you did not see a certain thing she did! HOWEVER THAT DOESN'T MEAN IF SHE HAS DONE OR SAID SOMETHING THAT WILL DAMAGE HERSELF OR DEEN THEN YOU HAVE TO ACKNOWLEDGE IT! but the silly word, comments and action that she does pretend you did not hear or see because it will cause arguments for no reason... THIS WAS A PRACTICE THAT HAZRAT ALI USE TO IMPLEMENT..
24. This is a point that we all need to implement.. which is ADD A DROP OF PATIENCE DAILY IN YOUR EVERYDAY LIFE! THIS APPLIES TO SISTERS AS WELL... Brothers also INCREASE that drop pf patience when she is pregnant or on her monthly period this will go along way to her heart.
25. EXPECT her jealousy and RESPECT her jealousy! ITS NATURAL! sometimes our mothers may Allah be pleased with them use to get jealous when our beloved Prophet pbuh use to get food from the believers (the sisters) the servant came down with the food to our Prophet pbuh and our mother Aisha may Allah Taala be pleased with her stood next to our Prophets pbuh and she tapped the hand of the servant and the food fell on the floor.... BUT our beloved Prophet pbuh went down picking up the food and started to give out the food to everyone and said " EAT EVERYONE YOUR MOTHER GETS JEALOUS" and that's it it was over!!! so expect and respect her jealousy as it PROTECTS your love.
26. Be humble and you will be raised in her heart .
27. DON'T MAKE YOUR FRIENDS HAPPY AT THE EXPENSE OF YOUR WIFE'S HAPPINESS... E.G don't bring your friends home late at night and wake your wife up so she can prepare food and feed them. This will cause strain in her heart.
28. Help at home.. with the food and household chores... our beloved Prophet pbuh did this.. and he is the best amongst us.
29. Don't force your wife to love your parents because love cant be forced and Allah Taala puts love in the heart! Help her to respect and be kind to your parents and Insya-Allah the love will come gradually.
30. Show her that she is the ideal wife! This is not a lie because in many ways she is ideal BECAUSE every wife is ideal NO MATTER how good or great she is or how half great she is and make her feel how ideal she is that will increase her love.
31. BROTHERS remember your wife in your DUA'S. this will increase and protect her love especially if she knows you spend great time making dua for her in great places.
32. LEAVE HER PAST ALONE... YOU ARE NOT PART OR IN CHARGE OF HER PAST... YOU ARE NOT HER JUDGE!!! THIS IS STRICTLY BETWEEN ALLAH TAALA AND HER.
33. Don't try to show her your doing her a favor by bringing food for her at home...by saying you are providing for her BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT!!!!!! you are just a deliverer BECAUSE ALLAH TAALA PROVIDES FOR US!!!
34. Satan is your enemy NOT your wife... TAKE THE SHAITAN AS A ENEMY...do not let him get in between you both because his ultimate goal is to split you up as Allah Taala hates divorce
35. take food and put it in too her mouth... feed her because that will bring you closer
36. Consider your wife as your precious pearls... keep her away from the envy of the humans and jinns... Protect her from their gaze and their touch! SHE IS THE QUEEN OF YOUR HEART.
37. Show her your smile everyday... BECAUSE THE SMILE WILL WARM HER HEART... and its like giving sadaqah (charity).
38. DO not ignore your small problems because it will become a HUGE problem and can split you.
39. Avoid being harsh hearted....be gentle to your wife.
40. Respect her thinking... show that you appreciate and respect her thoughts.
41. Help her to dig within her heart... help her to find success BECAUSE HER SUCCESS IS YOUR SUCCESS.
42. Respecting the intimacy and the boundaries between you and your wife! Stay in the halal boundaries. When she is unwell to do not impose on her. respect her if she is not in the mood for your desires.
43. Our children are our HEARTS walking on this earth!!! HELP HER TO LOOK AFTER YOUR THEM (OUR HEART).
44. Give her the gifts of the tongue! tel her you look great mashaallah you are bright! give her the gifts of the tongue.
45. Don't be a stranger to your wife! she is your soul mate, best friend, the mother of your children! give her time and that will increase, protect and preserve your love.
46. Let her know when you're traveling, let her know when you are returning home! It's AGAINST ISLAM THAT YOU JUST SURPRISE HER AND KNOCK ON THE DOOR.
47. Some of us will start carrying a particular debate with us and in time it will turn into arguments.. DON'T LEAVE HOME BECAUSE OF IT... if you need to be alone go for a few min or an hour to yourself but don't let it manifest and let it keep you away from home! QUIT this habit because the sooner you stop doing that it will increase your love.
48. The home has secrecy and privacy, Once you take this privacy to the public, the secrecy of your wife, YOU ARE REALLY SERIOUSLY PUTTING A DANGEROUS HOLE INTO YOUR MARRIAGE AND RELATION... ISLAM IS AGAINST TAKING YOUR SECRECY AND PRIVACY TO THE PUBLIC.
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| Dia imam ku.. |
49. ENCOURAGE EACH OTHER WITH IBADAH IN WORSHIPING ALLAH TAALA!!! this will bring mercy, blessing and love into your marriage! when you plan to do hajj together this will increase your love so much.
50. LET HER KNOW THAT HER RIGHTS OVER YOU ARE NOT ONLY ON PAPER BUT WRITTEN IN YOUR HEART AND SOUL.
51/ 52. The Prophet pbuh said there is a messenger. the message at the tongue of the intimate relationship which is a kiss and we have to understand that a man cant just jump on his wife like a bull, NO!!! THE MESSENGER IS THE KISS.. it keeps the love and it polishes the love
53. Some of us when we have a problem, we have small problems with our loved one, then we go and share it with everyone! its like when you are wounded you don't leave your wound for all the germs because that will be dangerous for your wound! so when you have a dispute with your wife, it should not be known to anyone because that will dirty your wound and it will be dangerous! SO its best to go to someone that has a strong knowledge on Islam that can guide you to resolve the dispute.
54. To know that the good health of your wife is your good health! to care for her health is like to care for your own health because when she is unwell you are unwell! YOU ARE BOTH ONE.
55. Some brothers will think they are right all the time and they can never accept that they are wrong. BUT THEY HAVE TO REMEMBER THEY ARE NOT PERFECT THEY HAVE SHORT COMINGS! YOU NEED TO GET RID OF THIS SICKNESS ( THAT YOUR ALWAYS RIGHT) THOSE PEOPLE WHO THINK THEY ARE ALWAYS RIGHT, well may ALLAH TAALA HELP YOU!!!!! THE ONE THAT IS ALWAYS RIGHT IS OUR PROPHET MOHAMMAD PBUH!!! get rid of this sickness then your love will be protected and increased.
56. Share your happiness and sadness with your wife.
57. Have mercy on her weakness!!! have mercy on her when she is weak or when she is strong! have mercy on her as she is the fragile vessel, she is the one that really takes care of you and your loved ones and she is the one that is entrusted in your hands! our prophet pbuh showed us that this wife is a trust in your hand.
58. You are the comfortable chest for her, you are the one who should say to her: lean on me at difficult times, lean on me in the sad and happy times! rest assured she will lean on your chest but she will look after your heart and protect the love.
59. Accept her as is!!! she is created out of your rib!!! so naturally she will be bent!!! you will never be able to straighten her, if you try to she will break! Allah Taala showed us if you dislike one manner of her you will like another manner of her.
60. Have the good intentions for your wife at all times it will go along way because Allah Taala will monitor your heart!
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| Ni nak habaq sedikit pesanan drpd ustaz :) |
Alhamdulillah..
Done !!
OhMyEnglish is tunggang terbalik !!! But it is okay.. the important thing is the message that we already read, right !? ^_^
hope we can be the best for our partner :) .. orang puteh cakap saling melengkapi ^_^
Thank you for reading ^_^...
See you in my next entry.. Take care !!
WASSALAM ~~~
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